No matter how prevalent LHHATL is, K wants you to know that the image you see on your television screens week after week doesn’t fully represent her. “You only get to see the half of it,” she told the audience. “I’m not perfect; I don’t want you to strive to be like me, I want you to be better than me.” She’s been publicly involved with Saving Our Daughters, and her set included a video testament from a young female domestic violence victim named Shaun. While this moment served as a chance for K to catch her breath (and sip some of her Jack Daniel’s), she followed the moving video up with a revealing depiction of one of the toughest periods of her life. “You have to be strong. I thought my career was over, I thought it was over; I didn’t have anything,” she explained, breaking into tears while referencing her own experience in a volatile relationship. “I still get angry, and I think that’s the reason for a lot of things I do that I shouldn’t. But you can’t take the excuse. You just have to get better and say why and move forward.” Cue her impassioned remix of Beyoncé’s “Best Thing I Never Had,” aptly titled, “Worst Thing I Ever Had.”
“If you go through that, you have to use it to help other people,” she added. Her ability to write about whatever she’s going through–be it a busted woo-ha or painful break-up–is inspiring to many who feel silent and stuck in a negative situation. Through her way with words and powerful stage presence, K helps those of us in confusing situations to find our voice. She’s the cool and confident big sister we can’t help but look up to–the one who taught us how to dress, make him jealous (as seen in the way she whipped her hips during a particularly pointed line of a break-up anthem, as if to physically move the man in question to see what he’s missing), and buy us a pet monkey just because. (Yes, look out for an Ochocinco-inspired cut on the album.) The crowd was more than appreciative of her generosity, enthusiastically singing back every word of every song, from “I Can’t Do This Anymore,” to new single, “V.S.O.P.” The latter marked the lone time the typically loquacious K fell silent, humbled by the gesture before her. “I love my fans, y’all are just as crazy as me,” she proclaimed.