• Season 2, Ep 6

Ceaser Opens Up About His Father

When a woman with AIDS comes into the shop to get an AIDS ribbon tattoo, Ceaser opens up about his father dying of AIDS.

11/04/2013 · 2:45

AND THEY WERE LIKE, "OH, IN THE

BIBLE IT SAYS YOU NOT SUPPOSED

TO GET--TATTOO YOUR BODY UP."

BUT I FEEL THAT I NEED TO GET

A TATTOO TO KIND OF START

THE CONVERSATION, YOU KNOW,

THAT HIV AND AIDS IS STILL HERE.

THE STIGMA IS JUST SO SERIOUS--

THE STIGMA AND THE IGNORANCE.

AND PEOPLE ARE STILL PRACTICING

UNSAFE SEX LIKE HIV DOESN'T

EVEN EXIST.

>> BUT THAT'S WHAT, LIKE,

SOMETHING HAPPENED TO MY

FATHER.

LIKE, HE WAS DEALING WITH

SOMEBODY FOR, LIKE, TEN YEARS,

AND SHE WAS DOING HER THING

ON THE SIDE, AND HE CAUGHT IT.

>> THAT WAS CRAZY.

>> THIS IS NOT SOMETHING I TALK

ABOUT A LOT, BUT MY FATHER DIED

FROM AIDS.

I DIDN'T KNOW HIM MY WHOLE LIFE,

AND WHEN I ACTUALLY GOT TO MEET

HIM, HE JUST DIED.

WHAT BUGS ME ABOUT A LOT OF

PEOPLE THAT SOMETIMES CATCH

THE VIRUS, THEY RUN OFF AND--

TO GET AWAY FROM THEY FAMILY

AND THEY FRIENDS

AND THEN MOVE

TO WEST BUMBLE [bleep]

TO JUST LAY DOWN AND DIE.

AND THAT'S BASICALLY WHAT

HE DID.

WE AIN'T EVEN KNOW HE WAS DEAD

UNTIL, LIKE, A WEEK AFTER.

>> CEASER'S VERY PRIVATE ABOUT

HIS FAMILY,

VERY, VERY.

IT'S IMPORTANT TO ME TO SUPPORT

HIM 'CAUSE HE REALLY DID HAVE

A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH THIS.

>> FACE THIS WAY?

NO, DON'T GO NOWHERE.

DON'T GO NOWHERE.

DON'T GO NOWHERE.

I JUST WANT TO

ASK YOU A QUESTION.

>> GO AHEAD.

>> HOW DID YOU FEEL WHEN YOU

FOUND OUT YOUR FATHER WAS LIVING

WITH AIDS?

>> IT WAS KIND OF MIXED.

I KIND OF--I WAS KIND OF ANGRY

AT HIM.

>> DID YOU GET TO SEE HIM

BEFORE HE PASSED?

>> NO.

ME AND MY FATHER WASN'T

THAT CLOSE.

LIKE, I MET HIM A COUPLE TIMES.

PROBABLY I COULD COUNT ON MY TWO

HANDS HOW MANY TIMES I SEEN HIM.

>> MM.

>> AND THAT'S WHAT KIND OF

[bleep] ME UP SOMETIMES TOO.

>> MM-HMM.

>> 'CAUSE AT THE SAME TIME,

I FEEL LIKE I WAS ROBBED.

'CAUSE AS I GOT OLDER, I SAY,

"YEAH, I'MA SIT DOWN

WITH MY FATHER..."

>> AND TALK TO HIM.

>> AND TALK TO HIM.

AND THAT [bleep] AIN'T NEVER

HAPPEN.

>> MM-HMM.

>> HONESTLY, MY GUIDE IN LIFE IS

TO BE NOT LIKE HIM.

I DON'T WANT TO BE RUNNING FROM

WOMAN TO WOMAN.

EVERYTHING MY FATHER DID I TRY

TO DO THE OPPOSITE OF.

>> THIS IS MY FIRST TATTOO.

CEASER, YOU GOT TO HOLD MY HAND.

>> HOLD YOUR HAND?

I'M OUT OF HERE.

>> YOU GOT TO BE MORE

GENTLE WITH ME.

>> WHAT YOU TAUGHT ME IS THAT

CAN'T DISCRIMINATE AGAINST

ANYBODY, ESPECIALLY YOU.

SO YOU KNOW I'MA TREAT YOU LIKE

EVERYBODY ELSE.

I SEE YOU LATER.

>> [laughs]

>> I'M GONNA GET YOU TO STAND

UP, MARIA.

>> YOU HOLLER AT ME IF Y'ALL

NEED ME.

I'M GLAD DUTCHESS IS DOING THIS

TATTOO, BECAUSE HONESTLY,

IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY, I THINK

WE DON'T TALK ABOUT AIDS ENOUGH.

>> ♪ GONNA LOVE