• Season 4, Ep 3

Taylor Opens Up About Her Fit

Dr. Jenn helps Taylor realize the real source of her outburst.

01/16/2014 ยท 3:29

AT COUPLES THERAPY AROUND THE

CLOCK, BUT TO GET A PHONE CALL

AT 3:00 IN THE MORNING ABOUT

GREEN TOWELS, THAT'S A PROBLEM.

I'VE TREATED DOZENS OF

CELEBRITIES HERE AT THIS

MANSION, AND NO ONE'S EVER

THROWN A FIT ABOUT THE LIVING

ACCOMMODATIONS.

SO TODAY IN GROUP, I'M GOING

TO CUT RIGHT TO THE CHASE.

GOOD MORNING, EVERYONE.

>> both: GOOD MORNING.

>> UNLIKE MOST GROUPS THAT WE

DO, WHERE WE START WITH A THEME,

I'D LIKE TO START BY TALKING

ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED LAST NIGHT.

IN 20-PLUS YEARS OF DOING

THERAPY IN BEVERLY HILLS,

NEVER IN MY LIFE HAVE I SEEN

SUCH AN ENTITLED TANTRUM.

BUT HERE'S THE THING.

I THINK IT'S BULL[bleep],

AND HERE'S WHY.

YOU'RE A WOMAN WHO HAS SURVIVED

GROWING UP IN A HOME WITH

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

YOU HAD A HUSBAND WHO BEAT

THE [bleep] OUT OF YOU.

YOU FOUND HIM HANGING IN HIS

ROOM, AND I THINK YOU'RE A HELL

OF A LOT TOUGHER THAN THAT.

I DON'T BELIEVE THAT GREEN

TOWELS OR A LACK OF LATTES

OR A SMALL CLOSET WILL TAKE YOU

TO YOUR KNEES LIKE THAT.

SO TELL ME WHAT IT WAS REALLY

ABOUT.

>> WELL, I THINK THERE HAVE

BEEN MULTIPLE THINGS THAT

I DON'T FEEL LIKE ARE GETTING

TAKEN CARE OF.

PEOPLE AREN'T GETTING FED

PROPERLY.

DIETARY NEEDS AREN'T BEING MET.

AND I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT--

I'M NOT ASKING FOR CAVIAR.

YOU KNOW, I JUST WANT TO EAT

SOMETHING BETTER THAN THE

PUBLIC-SCHOOL SYSTEM.

>> WHAT SET ME OFF LAST NIGHT

AND WHAT REALLY I THINK GOT HER

COMPLETELY TWISTED OFF WAS,

SINCE THE MOMENT WE WALKED IN

THIS HOUSE, THE HEAT HAS BEEN

BLASTING IN OUR ROOM.

I HAD A MELTDOWN.

I'M LIKE, "I DON'T NEED THIS

[bleep].

YOU KNOW WHAT?

I'M GONNA PACK MY [bleep] BAGS,

AND WE CAN GO OUT."

AND YOU KNOW WHAT?

IT MADE ME IMPATIENT.

AND THEN SHE SENSES MY

IMPATIENCE.

HER ANXIETY STARTS TO RAMP UP.

>> YEAH.

>> WELL, AND THEN I FEEL LIKE,

"[bleep] THIS," BECAUSE

I ALREADY HAD REALITY TV KILL

ONE PERSON IN MY LIFE.

>> YEAH.

>> AND NOW HE'S, LIKE, SPINNING

OUT OF CONTROL.

I'M LIKE, "[bleep], HERE WE GO

AGAIN.

NOW MY CAREER IS KILLING PEOPLE

AROUND ME AGAIN."

>> YOUR CAREER DIDN'T KILL HIM.

IT DIDN'T.

HE HAD TREMENDOUS PROBLEMS.

THAT'S WHY HE HURT YOU THE WAY

HE DID AND CRITICIZED YOU THE

WAY HE DID FOR ALL OF THOSE

YEARS.

JOHN, WHILE YOU ARE NO RUSSELL

BY ANY MEANS AND I CAN SEE

CLEARLY HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THIS

WOMAN, WHAT I WORRY IS, YOU

CREATING A DYNAMIC IN THIS

RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOU WALK OUT

THE DOOR, AND HE'S IN CHARGE,

AND YOU DON'T SPEAK UP FOR

YOURSELF.

AND THE MORE YOU DO IT, WHETHER

IT'S HERE OR OUT THERE,

THE WORSE IT GETS, THE MORE

RESENTFUL YOU ARE.

EVERYTHING SNOWBALLS.

>> YOU'RE RIGHT.

AND WHEN I DO HAVE OUTBURSTS

OF THINGS THAT DON'T MAKE ANY

SENSE, IT'S BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW

HOW TO SAY IT'S ABOUT THE THINGS

I CAN'T CONTROL.

SO MY HOME IS PERFECT ALL THE

TIME...

BECAUSE EVERYTHING ELSE ABOUT MY

LIFE FEELS LIKE CHAOS, AND IT

ALWAYS HAS.

>> TAYLOR, I WANT YOU TO BE ABLE

TO FEEL OKAY WITHOUT THE TOWELS

BEING PERFECT, BECAUSE IT COMES

FROM WITHIN YOU, NOT FROM ALL OF

THIS OUTSIDE STUFF THAT YOU'VE

CREATED TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL

SAFE.

YOU'RE WORKING DOUBLE TIME

TO CONTAIN YOUR ANXIETY.

WHAT WE HAVE TO DO IS WE HAVE

TO ADDRESS WHAT'S GOING ON

INSIDE THAT GOT YOU HERE.

>> I'M SURE SOME OF THESE OTHER

PEOPLE ARE REALLY SCREWED UP.

CAN WE TALK ABOUT THEM NOW?

[laughter]