Find out why Chill will "never settle," her fave vacation spot and more as she takes on the hot seat.
Hello Chilli, I'm not sure if you read these messages, but I saw one of your episodes on vh1 and realized that you are a woman that I would like get to know, and if you're still single, and if you gave me a look and things worked out between us, I could become serious with you.
I first saw you at a club in buckhead before your group came out, and I felt like we caught each others eye( you guys were probably in the studio then). I've liked you since then, and became a fan as soon as TLC came out!I would like to somehow catch up with you over dinner or lunch, so we can talk in person.
By the way, this is wierd for me to be doing this, but I happened to see your show for some reason - I don't normally watch these type of shows - and decided to step to the challenge by putting myself out here. Here's to love.
p.s. And I can cook, too.
Hi Chili how are you doing I am one of your bigger fan i love your TLC music videos I am prayer to God that you meet the right person
Chili,what r u doing?When i was watchin TLC's music videos back when,I always thought u were the most beautiful women.As then just as now I stiil believe u r.These dates and having someone setup venue meetings,and overnight stays baby stop please.We all want love but you r not going to find it if ur looking for it.The farmer is not it trust me,he's o.k as far as a person and he maybe sweet to you but the smell of the farm u think u can really toloreate.Some farmers don even like to take showers,unless its the first couple of dates.And Bill looks like he's an alcoholic and prob abusive as well.You maynot see it but Chili I grew up with all types so I'm just informing you and besides you dont want to fighting in front of you son especially because the man you picked has a drinking problem.All Im sayin is finish ur reality show but I'll pray for u n ur son....Chili,let love find u if the lord see that ur ready and his time is right,then let him send u a man created for u....girl aint no man better than the man sent by thy father............I hope u make a smart decision,n let the lord do this 1 for u,if not ur back 2 square 1 all over again,,sweety ur in m y prayers..............
what happened with you and dallas...get back together..
Chilli is real, strong, tough but soft in nature and approach... shes the one how really needs her own "Chilli of Love" series because I really think she is genuine in looking for real love.
Chilli-I commend you for sticking to your list. It is important to have standards and too many women settle for anything just becuase they are desperate to have a man. I wish more women valued themselves the same way you do. Having standards is especially important when you want to have children with someone. I also think you have the wrong person trying to find you a soulmate. She just doesn't get it. Well dont get discouraged, The right person will come along when its time. This really isn't something you can rush.
Good Afternoon Chilli,
I want to commend you on maintaining a level of self control, respect, and personal integrity. Those qualities are difficult to come by these days. People will give you all kinds of advice and reasons to conform to the culture of the day. As you are aware, the social climate is changing, leading us down a path that we could have never imagined.
Reckless conduct, over indulgence, disregard for basic moral principles, and inability to delay gratification has put women in so many vulnerable situations. We are bombarded with messages that in order to get what we want in life, we have to bend a little, be flexible, and not be so picky. I have found these to be synonyms for compromise.
Compromise is far too costly when you take an honest calculation of the risk. We don’t expect men to compromise or be accountable. We are supposed to close our eyes and hope for the best. We are suppose to be cool and understanding when they don’t call or show up. When they do resurface, we’re expected to adopt a “don’t ask” policy. We are suppose to trust and not jump to conclusions when they speak in code on the phone, take calls in another room or at inappropriate times.
I call this snagging a man through the back door approach. I can’t be who I am and hope you will accept me. Women are being conditioned to lie down who they are, their value and belief system, and their desires in hope that men will respond to us the way we want and deserve. The rate of exchange is inequitable.
The best quote I ever heard comes from the character Fiona in the musical Brigadoon. Her younger sister is marring before her. In their culture, that is somewhat a shameful occurrence. The women in her village taunt her asking, “Aren’t you afraid of growing old and a lone?” Fiona’s response was “If you marry the wrong man, your nights are a lot lonelier”. Everyone woman who desires to marry or contemplating settling should consider this possibility.
A Baptist preacher had this to say about the institution of marriage during one of his sermons: Marriage is like a city under siege, those who are out want to get in and those who are in want to get out!
But the best piece of advice I ever received came from my mom. She said, “Don’t wait until you get into a situation decide who you are and how you should respond. By that time, the damage is done”.
You seem to know who you are. Don’t make rash decisions contrary to who you are based on anyone particular experience or relationship.
Circumstances change; leading men change. Despite the fact of all these changes, your role as a mother and living with the consequence of such critical decisions will never change.
Lastly, I personally would not take financial planning advice from someone who has filed bankruptcy or demonstrated poor financial management for obvious reasons. Likewise, I would be acutely discriminating and would seek wise counsel on such serious issues as they relate to my future and ultimately, my children.
Chilli- First let me say that i think that you are a very beautiful and intelligent woman...there is definitely more to you than meets than eye...i don't believe that your problem is that you don't know what you want but that you are afraid to let go...once you do this...it will be a lot easier for you to make up your mind who you want...i don't believe that dating someone you barely even know is the way to go in most cases when talking about marriage...i love Floyd Mayweather and the two of you have great chemistry...seems to me your blessing is staring you straight in your face...your lady friend should be more respectful and understanding of your decisions because marriage is nothing to be taken lightly...dating maybe... but marriage never ...so take your time and remember "its better to have loved and lost than not to have love at all." So what are you waiting for...get a move on! I have confidence that you will make the decision that is in best interest of you and your son. God Bless Carol
chilli you is not getting n e younger so fine a damm men in stop being so ******* stuck up
Chilli, You are to picky with the mens out here. Your list of DEMANDS AREN'T GETTING YOU A MAN, SO WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? yOU NEED TO BE REALISTIC, every woman has a list, but face it do you want to BE BY YOURSELF FOREVER. You keep it up you will be sweety!
Chilli, I feel you need to keep your vib. and extra batteries close by. Invest in a robot..