Mark Sturkenboom

There’s a Sex Toy You Can Fill with the Ashes of Your Deceased Love

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Losing the one you love to an untimely death would be completely devastating. While there are countless ways one might try and cope, this one is…um…the sexiest?

This is exactly what you think it is and hope it isn’t. It’s a dildo you can fill with the ashes of your dead lover. Please try not to sprain your finger as you rapidly race to order one.

According to artist and creator Mark Sturkenboom (via Uproxx), it’s about more than sex:

21 Grams is a memory-box that allows a widow to go back to the intimate memories of a lost beloved one. After a passing, the missing of intimacy with that person is only one aspect of the pain and grieve. This forms the base for 21 Grams. The urn offers the possibility to conserve 21 grams of ashes of the deceased and displays an immortal desire. By bringing different nostalgic moments together like the scent of his perfume, ‘their’ music and reviving the moment he gave her her first ring, it opens a window to go back to moments of love and intimacy. She is able to have an intimate night with her sweetheart again. The cabinet functions also as an acoustic amplifier. In the back of the cabinet there is room for an iPhone, the music plays their music through the ‘forget me not’ flowers on the inside of the cabinet. The key to this cabinet is also a golden collier. So that she is the only one who can access the cabinet. 21 Grams is not only a way to tempt a person to revive an intimate night with her love again but also displays an accusation against the unavoidable passing of life.

That makes it sound so beautiful and sweet you forget it is literally a dildo full of ashes. But whatever helps you through this difficult time.