5 Lessons To Be Learned From Monday’s Gossip Game Finale:
5) True journalists tell stories based on facts, not our own personal vendettas: The lovely Ms. Drama did an incredible job this episode of demonstrating, once again, what a real journalist is NOT. At one point during the show, she tells the barefaced lie that the rest of us are jealous of her because she gets all the big interviews. Who? Hot Waterz? Oh, almost forgot about her blockbuster sit down with Talib Kweli! Even higher on the falsity scale, Drama had the nerve to call me a “come-up ho,” solely because I’m not against dating men in the industry. But then the hypocrite takes a “business” meeting with Star where he pulls out a roll of ultra-thin lubricated condoms and proposes to use them on her. Let me get this right Drama, you won’t date men in the industry but you’ll let them blatantly disrespect you with crude offers of casual sex? I do believe Star even had her blushing, LOL!!
4) Don’t just hope for your big break. Be prepared for it: Vivian took a meeting with DJ Prostyle at Power 105 about possibly coming onboard as a regular on his radio show. It was smart of her to think ahead and bring some of her latest stories to show him a taste of her work. But unexpectedly, the DJ put Viv on the spot and asked her to audition for him right there and then! Despite her nervousness, Viv handled the situation like a true pro and on her second attempt, totally nailed it! Prostyle looked impressed and I hope Viv hears good news soon. The power of preparation.
3) There are two ways to handle a verbal attack from a hater: remain cool and collected or let her have it. Angela’s uncomfortable exchange with K. Foxx could have turned ugly if she’d ‘risen’ to the Hot 97 host’s level as Foxx had requested. As Kay began to get visibly riled up, Ang conducted herself in a laid-back manner while still managing to get her point across – plus throw in a few smart jabs, too. It was obvious who came out on top. However, my Drama experience required a slightly different approach. Acting up as per usual, the blogger began the conversation in a rude, condescending tone that I had to check immediately. What I’d hoped would be a “woman to woman” conversation quickly became a “woman to warthog” battle. Drama got plain disrespectful with the name-calling so it was time to firmly put her in her place, like a lady of course, then make my grand exit ;-).
2) The higher the risk, the greater the reward: I know it’s been a tough decision for Kim to abandon her high-powered position at The Source, especially with the financial responsibilities she continues to face as a mother, but finding the greatest level of success often involves the biggest risks. Kim has realized that working for somebody else’s company and building somebody else’s brand just isn’t fulfilling for her anymore, so she’s following her heart and her passion to start her own website. Kim’s ready to let her voice be heard loud and clear as a woman in hip hop; a voice we don’t hear from enough. I have a good feeling that this gutsy move is going to pay off for her big time.
1) Embrace the hate and create the love: K. Foxx’s insults towards me, Angela and Vivian could have stung but instead of dwelling on the negativity we decided to make it work in our favor. Fake, conceited, a bitch? Though none of Foxx’s disses have any truth to them, we took the power out of her words, laughed at them and then owned them. And so was born the FCB – a paradoxical sisterhood of fake, conceited bitches. Instead of being able to tear us down, Kay has actually brought us together and given us strength. Thanks girl. FCB for life!!!