19 Kids and Counting star Michelle Duggar posted some ridiculous advice/nonsense on her blog last week. Are you ready for this? She actually thinks women should be down to have sex whenever their husbands are horny—even if they’re tired, upset or just not in the mood. Yup. (What the hell is this, 1952?)
When she married current husband Jim Bob, Michelle claims a friend gave her some tips she still honors to this day: Always be DTF. Like, always. “…’you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy,'” Michelle writes in her blog—she quotes what her friend told her. “’You’re it. You’re the only one.’ ”
She continues writing (her friend’s words), “’So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.'”
Michelle then breaks down her friend’s advice in one simple paragraph: “…be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ’Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ’I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.’ ”
Yes, you read that correctly. Michelle honestly suggests a woman’s desires do not matter when it comes to sex. If your husband wants to do it, then it’s your job to indulge him. I’m sorry, but what the genuine hell?
Oh, wait—Michelle does say that in return for joyously fornicating whenever Jim Bob pleases, he listens to her. “I’m meeting his needs, he’s meeting my needs,” she writes. Again, excuse me? Jim Bob—I laugh every time I write his name, by the way—should listen to Michelle regardless of the amount of times they have sex. Listening isn’t a reward for acceptable bedroom habits, JB. What planet do you live on?
Ladies, here is the real tea: If you’re not in the mood to have sex, then your significant other should be cool with that and let you really Netflix and chill. When—and only when—you’re both ready to have sex, then you should do it. It’s a little thing called consent, my friends. I can’t believe I literally have to say these tips out loud—but with Michelle spewing this crap, I have no choice.
Get the F out of here with those archaic views, Michelle.
Women don’t need this poison.