I can take a joke. And I take it as much as I dish it, which admittedly happens far too often. But hearing Caitlyn Jenner say deciding what to wear is the “hardest part about being a woman” when accepting Glamour’s Woman of the Year Award yesterday didn’t make me laugh. And I wasn’t the only one who wasn’t amused by her attempt at a joke.
Rose McGowan, appalled by Caitlyn’s acceptance speech, took to Facebook not only to serve an entire Starbucks’ worth of piping feminist truth tea, but to enlighten us all.
Her since-deleted post read:
“Caitlyn Jenner you do not understand what being a woman is about at all. You want to be a woman and stand with us- well learn us. We are more than deciding what to wear. We are more than the stereotypes foisted upon us by people like you. You’re a woman now? Well f—king learn that we have had a VERY different experience than your life of male privilege.
Woman of the year? No, not until you wake up and join the fight. Being a woman comes with a lot of baggage. The weight of unequal history. You’d do well to learn it. You’d do well to wake up. Woman of the year? Not by a long f—king shot.”
She also posted graphic photos with Caitlyn’s quotes on them, including a woman getting raped, one being followed, another who had just given birth and Nicole Brown Simpson (O.J. Simpson’s late wife) covered in bruises.
She later added:
“Let me amend this by saying I’m happy for what she’s doing visibility wise for the trans community, and I’m happy she’s living her truth, but comments like hers have consequences for other women. How we are perceived, what our values are, and leads to more stereotyping. If you know you are going to be speaking to media about being a woman, maybe come to understand our struggles.”
I hope this tea was a scorching wakeup call. I agree with Rose in that Caitlyn has been an immensely huge force in helping educate and shift our country’s view of transgender life. I respect her for trying to immerse herself in the trans community and previously speaking to serious issues it faces. But I can’t help feeling annoyed that a privileged, white person, who’s fairly new to living life publicly as a female and previously presented herself as a highly-publicized, praised and accomplished male, thinks it’s OK to make jokes like this at our expense. There are females, and transgender females, whose lives are at risk every day just for being who they are. And your biggest problem is picking out a designer outfit?
I’m not trying to undermine Caitlyn’s process, we’ve witnessed it and have seen the emotional difficulty and turmoil it brought into her and her family’s lives. But this is still an extremely sensitive topic, and before making jokes about wardrobe, it may be in her best interest to educate herself on the struggles that females and transgender people less fortunate than she is really deal with before she goes and pisses more people off talking about clothes.