I have no idea what Rita Ora does and why she remains a mild fixture of pop culture conversation. I’m aware that her working title is that of “singer,” but if you told me you’d pay off my student loans if I could name three Rita Ora songs, I’d break down in tears because it’s the impossible dream. I did some digging for the sake of this piece (#journalism) and she does have a good voice, you guys. She’s pretty, seems funny in media appearances, but I don’t get it— where are the hits, sis?
Whatever Rita Ora does or does not do to maintain the celebrity tag, one thing is certain: do not judge her by the activity you presume goes on in her crotch.
By now you’ve heard about A$AP Rocky’s diss to her on his new album, At.Long.Last.A$AP. On the track, “Better Things,” Rocky says, “I swear that bitch Rita Ora got a big mouth/ Next time I see her might curse the b—h out/ Kicked the b—h out once cause she b—hed out/ Spit my kids out, jizzed up all in her mouth and made the b—h bounce.”
When asked about this in an interview with Radio 1 DJ Annie Mac, Rocky explains, “She got me into a lot of trouble but I just want to clarify, this isn’t me saying ’don’t go listen to Rita Ora’ or that she’s a terrible person.” So she’s not a terrible person, but you want the world to know that you’re contemplating cursing her out because she has a “big mouth.” Oh, and that you ejaculated in her mouth. Yes, this makes sense.
Rocky went on to say, “I’m just saying that when I was in a relationship and I did things with her that I wasn’t supposed to do, she had a big mouth. But honestly the song is really old. It’s from the time the situation I was referring to in the song happened.” Wait. You cheated on your girlfriend with another woman – a famous, or famous-adjacent, one at that – and you’re trying to shame Ora? Where is his muzzle?
As my fellow Howard University graduate and Washington Post writer Soraya Nadia McDonald noted, “Rocky amasses trysts with women more famous than himself so that he can appear more significant by association. And how does he let everyone know about those associations? He raps about them and calls them ‘b—–s.’”
In this instance, A$AP Rocky is like Karrine Steffans with studio time. He is as much a social climber as she is, and any other famous girlfriends of rappers are categorized as, for that matter. Only his male gender precludes him from such grouping. None of those women have ever debased their male suitors/conquests/boyfriends/partners the way Rocky did Ora.
Unfortunately, Rita Ora is no stranger to this sort of shaming. In 2013, pre-recluse Rob Kardashian took to Twitter to accuse his former girlfriend of sleeping with 20 men and proceeding to unleash a series of insults. When speaking about it on one of those 1,000 Kardashian spinoffs they have, he said, “I posted what I posted to keep myself from taking her back. Every time she messed up, I took her back for over a year now. I just had to do that to make her hate me.”
Like A$AP Rocky, Rob Kardashian took the cheapest way to belittle a woman: calling her a whore. No matter what Rita Ora did or did not do, this is misogyny. Neither of these men want to take into account their own actions, focusing instead to attempts to publicly shame her. It may have worked for some people, but to me all it does it highlight their own level of patheticness.
The rumors have since given her a reputation and music fans will pile in on her, too. People – okay, mostly #Beyhive members – were virtually scalping the girl bald after a photo of her hugging Jay Z at the MET gala surfaced. I mean, I wouldn’t roll up on anything belonging to Beyoncé like that, but it wasn’t like it was a video clip of her offering to be Hov’s sidepiece, was it?
I’m all for folks questioning why she’s still with us, but please don’t help the misogynistic morons of the world denigrate another with the cheapest form of sexism there is.