Anna Duggar raised eyebrows with a comment she made on the latest episode of Jill & Jessa: Counting On. Despite her husband Josh’s confirmed infidelity and child sexual abuse scandals, she refuses to divorce him–or even entertain the idea, for that matter. And the reasoning? Christianity–because, ya know, Jesus wants you to stay with someone who molested children and cheated because he’ll ~change.~ Just take a look at what she said on the latest episode of the popular TLC show:
“I pray through all of this that I would be an extension of God’s love to Joshua; that I would love him and forgive him. I will wait patiently and allow God to work in our hearts. My prayer and my heart’s desire is for our marriage to be restored. When you go through difficult times, it can either destroy your life or make you stronger. My purpose and my desire through all of this for each member of my family is that we would turn our hearts to God and find the grace and the help we need and come out stronger.”
To each her/his own, but why is Anna equating divorcing her abusive husband to destroying her life? Her beliefs are deeply rooted in Christianity, of course, but there is something sad about this. If her husband poses some sort of threat to her, she should have the right to leave him–and feel completely guiltless about it.
But don’t tell that to Christian blogger Lori Alexander. In a recent post, she lauds Anna’s decision to stay with Josh, who is currently in rehab seeking treatment for porn addiction. According to Ms. Alexander, if Anna still wants to call herself a Christian, she must stay with Josh–even if he doesn’t change. Check out this very troubling excerpt from her blog:
“I have never encouraged a woman to get divorced and I never will since marriage is a model of Christ and the church and He will never divorce us…You are showing Christ’s love and forgiveness to a wretched sinner as we all once were before being washed in His blood and made new creatures in Him. He now even calls us saints!”
This is the same woman who in a different blog post wrote it was never justified for a woman to divorce her husband. Yes, you’re reading all of this accurately. If you’re a Christian, you have to stay with your man–no matter what.
Well, we call bulls–t on this horrible advice. If your husband is cheating on you, beating you or effing molesting little children, you have every right to get yourself far away from him. It is not wrong for Anna to divorce Josh. What is wrong, though, is staying with him and keeping their four children at risk. I’m not a practicing Christian, but that sounds more ungodly than divorce. Women of the world: Ignore this blogger’s words. You have every right to get yourself out of a potentially harmful situation. It’s time we kick this fire-and-brimstone logic to the curb for good.
But that’s just our opinion. What do you think about this blogger’s advice for Anna to stay with Josh (a.k.a Monster in Human Form) no matter what? Sound off in the comments below.