Deb Antney Says the Trans Community Doesn’t Need a Spokesperson Like D. Smith

"As far as D. Smith goes, like I really got to see D. Smith is an a--hole. Period."

Deb Antney has been the surrogate mother for more than a few of the artists on Love & Hip Hop Atlanta but since her son and daughter-in-law, Waka Flocka and Tammy Rivera, rejoined the cast, she’s now being enveloped in their drama.

VH1 had an exclusive chat with Deb about serving as a mouthpiece for her son on the show, mediating Momma Dee and Shirleen’s fight, and going toe to toe with D. Smith, who she believes is just an “a–hole” seeking television fame.

What inspired you to start an anti bullying organization? We know your son KayO was a victim of suicide.
Deb Antney: Yes, it all it all started from KayO. It wasn’t the actual reason of him committing suicide, but it played some roles in it but it wasn’t it. It was [a cause] that was really close to my heart and something that really bothered him because we was also victims of all the internet bullying from the gossiping. It was something that he couldn’t stand. It was like a big thing of why he didn’t want us to be bothered with any of this stuff [reality TV] because it opened up the doors for people to be able to come in and point their fingers and say whatever it is that they wanted to say about us. So in starting [the organization,] our goal was to stop reckless internet postings.

How do you see internet bullying in you and your loved ones’ lives?
It’s disgusting, like people get to pass judgments on you [and] don’t even know you, and one person just say something about you and everybody agrees with it. I think that, in how you post about celebrities period, you have to look at it that when people point their fingers at you then that’s just who you are. People get to create you and make you whoever it is that they want you to be. And that’s the thing that’s so disgusting to me with this whole social media thing.

I think that some people would argue that when people go on reality TV, they allow people into their personal lives to make a judgment on them.
I think that if you make a typical a–hole out of yourself, then, yes you do open up that door for that. But if you have added pushes to it, that’s something else that we need to talk about. How much [of what people are seeing] is you and how much is it of fictitious things? Like how much is being added to whatever you’re doing? This is not just about reality TV. This didn’t all just start from reality TV, it could be from a freaking movie. People play a character [in a movie] and the public take it like that that’s who you are. People wanna prejudge you because of the way you live your life but that ain’t nobody’s business. That’s not anybody’s business to actually say something because this is the way you choose to live or how you choose to live.

Were you hesitant to have your meeting with D. Smith asking her to be on your panel on camera, knowing about her past with Tammy?
No, I’m not hesitant to take that stuff on camera. One thing about me is that I don’t know how things are gonna play out because it’s reality. Stuff is not set up for me like that, like whatever I walk into I walk into. What you see is what you get. Point blank. Period. Sometimes I hold back things because it’s television and I have people out there that I respect. And I respect myself as a woman and a mother and a grandmother. There’s just some things I don’t want the camera to catch.

As far as D. Smith goes, like I really got to see D. Smith is an a–hole. Period. That’s nothing to do with anybody else. D. Smith got [her] own issues [and] it has nothing to do with anybody else’s issues. I just happen to be in D. Smith’s world for that few minutes. I chose to hop my a— up out of there too. D. Smith’s stuff is bigger than me and I’m not gonna have nobody for two seconds or three seconds on a TV screen prejudge my children and how we’re raised and our beliefs and what we think about and any of the rest of the things. I don’t care how people live their life. I love everybody. I don’t care who you are, what you are, what you choose to be in your life but just don’t be mad at me if I’m not with some things. Don’t be upset with me. Unfortunately D. Smith just kinda barked up the wrong tree because we don’t have phobias. I don’t really care how people choose to live their life, but when you try to make me, and force it to fit with me, then it becomes a problem. Now it’s a problem. I’m gonna respect you like you respect me. It’s simple as that.

Did you know D. Smith and Betty Idol were gonna come to the panel?

What did you think when you saw them walk in?
Here come that bulls–t.

Did you feel like you were getting set up a little bit and that drama was coming to you?
No. I don’t feel I’m set up if they coming in, they come in. Don’t forget I invited them, I invited D. Smith to come. Did I think they was gonna take the offer? I didn’t think they would take the offer because Tammy would be there and Bambi would be there you know what I’m saying? I didn’t think they was gonna come in, especially how [D.] was sitting there talking, that’s fine. Okay, you here. Now what?

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