Ta’Kari Lee’s strained relationship with her mother Jackie Christie became a topic of conversation among the women this season of Basketball Wives and while snippets of her forthcoming tell-all book were teased, we had to know what the young woman wrote about growing up with Jackie as a mom.
The memoir entitled Light to Her Shadow chronicles the eldest Christie child’s upbringing with her grandmother, her battle with depression and cutting, motherhood, and, of course, her relationship with her famous mother.
We read Ta’Kari’s book. Here are 5 things that we learned.
Ta’Kari says she was mostly raised by her grandmother Cora.Embedded from media.mtvnservices.com.
Ta’Kari opens up in her book about her very close relationship with Jackie’s mother, Cora who she calls a family “legend.” Ta’Kari alleges that while her mother was in her life, her primary caretaker was always her maternal grandmother. Ta’Kari writes that a lot of her issues with her mother stem from how her mom portrayed her grandmother in the media. The young writer says that while Cora did have a long battle with cancer, that there were good days that Jackie didn’t get to see because she was too busy. “She had lots and lots of good days while my mother was filming her show but she only chose to film my grandmother on her really bad days.” Ta’Kari goes on to allege that Cora was still taking care of her brother Dougie, Jr. at this time.
Ta’Kari has battled with depression and other health issues.
Ta’Kari shares that she has a speech impediment triggered from being 70% deaf in her left ear and 30% deaf in the right. She cites her speech impediment as a reason she struggled communicating with her mother. Later in Light to Her Shadow, Ta’Kari opens about struggling with depression off and on throughout the years, she even says she cut herself. She writes, “As depressed as I was, everything was a trigger for me to start cutting.” Ta’Kari says that she wrote multiple suicide letters and had multiple psych evaluations, as a result.
Ta’Kari appeared on Basketball Wives LA for counseling but claims that Jackie derailed the shoot.
Ta’Kari talks about her appearance on Basketball Wives LA, season two, and says she was excited to address some of the turmoil in their relationship but that it took a different turn. Ta’Kari alleges that Jackie tried to “coach” she and her sister Chantel on how to behave on camera. The elder Christie writes, “[Jackie] tried to orchestrate the whole scene but when my sister and I didn’t comply with what she wanted to happen she shut production down by starting to act like a diva on set.” Ta’Kari says she was disappointed that they didn’t really get anything out of the family therapy.
Ta’Kari says she is not jealous of Chantel.
Ta’Kari talks in detail about her relationship with her younger sister Chantel and says that she feels her mother has portrayed her as being jealous of Chantel’s looks but says that’s far from the truth. She writes, “I think my sister is one of the most beautiful women I know,” and asks why in the world would she be mad at the way God put her sister together. Ta’Kari claims Jackie was always “resentful” of Ta’Kari’s appearance and projected that onto her. Ta’Kari describes her up and down relationship with her sister over years, describing Chantel as a frequent ally but also being pit against. She writes that Chantel was the family member she contacted when her son was badly burned.
Ta’Kari candidly discusses the infamous “apple cider” vinegar and her weight.
Ta’Kari says she struggled with her weight as a young person and was often put on diets and forced to exercise. She writes in her book that she was made to drink a “nasty miracle mix” of apple cider vinegar daily. “I thought apple cider vingar was the new apple juice,” she continued, “I was expected to drink 4-5 8oz bottle of apple cider vinegar a day.”
This is Ta’Kari’s truth and certainly Jackie Christie has her truth. We hope that the mother and daughter can come to an understanding to move forward for whatever is best for them and their family.