No character on Girls has ever had an easy love life. First of all, this is Girls, nothing is ever easy for these characters. Second of all, this is a show that reflects the lives of lost twenty somethings in Brooklyn, so of course finding yourself comes with letting go of other people.
This season alone, we’ve watched Hannah get over Adam, Ray deal with losing Marnie, and Shoshanna cope with life after Ray. Knowing this, we asked the cast and crew of the hit HBO show at the red carpet before their PaleyFest panel what they think is the best way to get over an ex.
Lena Dunham: “Time and distance. I think a lot of people think they can move past a relationship while talking to that person everyday, but it’s kind of like drugs, you need to get off them.”
Andrew Rannells: “Find another one. I was never a proponent of that, ‘I just need to be with me.’”
Allison Williams: “Fall in love again. Find a new ex. It’s the only way to do it. Time kind of works. It’s like, ‘Oh you’re gonna go full Cast Away? Just be alone on island? Cool. Enjoy that.’ No, people go straight to Miami and they’re like, ‘This is Sven, I don’t know his last name.’”
Alex Karpovsky: “One solution is to immediately get into another relationship, which for me, has worked. Another thing is to break up your patterns. Physically getting away is helpful because I’m not geographically bombarded by associations—’That’s where we had our first date, that’s where had our fight that ended it all’—whatever it is. Liquor doesn’t hurt either.”
Jenni Konner (Producer): “Be gentle on yourself and give yourself all the time you need. Don’t be in a rush.”
Ilene S. Landress (Producer): “You just have to be sad for a couple days then get yourself out there again and be lucky that you have good friends. Especially in New York, there’s a lot to take advantage of.”
Judd Apatow (Producer): “I never was able to do it. If I bumped into an ex right now, I would just start crying.”
Personally, Williams’ advice is our favorite. But let us know yours in the comments below!
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