Millennials, and millennial women in particular, are constantly on the search for themselves. Our confusing and non-fulfilling jobs, love lives, and finances leave us feeling free but also like “what the actual f–k?” at the same time. Unfortunately, you’ve never been introduced to your soul sister Ally McBeal to help you through it all.
From 1997-2002 Ally McBeal ruled the airwaves, and we millennials were sadly born just a tad too late to witness the show, which was essentially a showcase of our lives. The show-which had a theme song called “Searching My Soul”-followed the young, confused Ally, maneuvering through life, love, and career one therapy session at a time. Calisa Flockhart starred as the lost, yet totally endearing and driven lawyer, who dealt with working with an ex and his wife, obnoxious coworkers, and all other unfortunate things twenty-somethings endure daily. Luckily, lessons from Ally’s hot mess of a life, still completely apply to ours. Watch and learn.
Stick up for yo’self.tumblr
Ally had little chances of winning a lawsuit against a higher-up coworker who grabbed her butt, but she went forward with it anyway, even though it did cost her her job.
Know when to walk away.brucemctague.com
We’re millennials, so naturally everyone and everything pisses us off. Richard Fish lived by the “bygones” motto; his way of walking away from a conversation or situation when he was just #OverIt. You should do the same.
Working with a former flame is a bitch, but you got this.tumblr
Those of you who have worked with an ex know it can get awkward as f–k. Ally had to work with her first love Billy and his wife, Georgia. Granted, Ally didn’t go without imaginary scenarios, but she handled it like a champ, keeping things professional and even befriending Georgia eventually.
Find humor in the mess of it all.giphy
Whether you find yourself in an excruciating love triangle at the office or get caught doing the nasty in the unisex bathroom, sometimes you just have to laugh.
Bite the bullet and be honest.thenerdsofcolor.org
John Cage once said: “That’s the trouble, I suppose, in coming to people with honesty, sometimes they counter with it.” It sucks, but it’s a better option than playing mind games. They get old, you know?
Be open to unexpected mentors and allies.giphy
Take John Cage, he was quirky (yet smart) as s–t, but Ally ended up learning tons from. Mostly that you can be totally bril in your professional life while a complete mess in your personal life.
Allow the people around you to help mold you.tumblr
You’re perfect as you are, but we all change and evolve with time. Because of her experiences and the bonds Ally formed with her coworkers at Cage & Fish, she was able to learn and grow as a professional and a woman.
Don’t apologize for things that make you you.
For example, Richard Fish had no problem dropping his unique habits and tidbits of wisdom- his “Fish-isms”-that made him him. What are yours?
Own your crazy.tumblr
Georgia once asked Ally: “What makes your problems so much bigger than everyone else’s?” Ally replied with: “They’re mine.” She saw a therapist regularly but embraced her wackiness, which is just amazing.
Lastly, a local bar for you and coworkers to bitch about life at is a necessity.giphy
For the partners at Cage & Fish, it was Martini Bar. It’s the only hope they, and you, have at keeping your sanity somewhat intact.